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Richard James's avatar

Great conversation as always. I'd like to add something I've been sitting with as I listen to your show while working as a psychotherapist and this seems like a relevant post to do so. There is a chasm between what the culture has become obsessed with talking about (identity essentialism) and what most of my clients talk about most of the time: their actual lives. I've worked with a very "diverse" group of people (by diverse I don't just mean skin color but diversity in class, cultural background, country of origin, economic status, core interests, sexual orientation, etc). In the years I've been in practice I would say that "identity" as constructed by the left today accounts for less than 0.1% of what real people actually talk about. There are just so many other things that are important to people other than the most superficial layer of their identity. Real people actively engaged in real life want to find love, passion, work through creative blocks, create boundaries with difficult family members, find meaning, become better parents, etc etc etc. I have the privilege of getting to know people more intimately than even their partners, family, etc, probably ever do at least in some ways, and in that rich inner world they already live in an almost entirely post-racial/post-identity/etc society. Of course there are reasons to speak of identity in some way but most people don't take it that seriously, it's just a data point. "Of course I'm checking the guys out at the pool, I'm a gay man!" or "Obviously we didn't talk about emotions growing up, my parents are Japanese" or "Being from New Zealand but white, it's hard for people to understand that I feel like a cultural outsider in America".

People that seem to hold identity in a healthy way wear it like an outfit, with pride (or perhaps discomfort) for the style while knowing well that there is more to them than that. Objectively speaking, I've found that I have about a 0% chance of accurately predicting what a client is going to talk about based on their race/gender/etc. It would be hard for me to find a more prescient data set to indicate the incredible progress our society has made compared to what I've read in history books, in spite of the imperfections that still persist.

In contrast, I can only imagine that to the extent an individual client (or much worse, their therapist as my field rots to its core) gets hijacked by this ideology, they will be taken away from true connection with themselves, their own unique individual life journey, and the personal agency they have to effect real change in their lives.

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Michael David Cobb Bowen's avatar

I think that without some form of racial abolition that we are bound to replicate the group dynamics of race and reinscribe people in the exact same way everyone against racism decries, regardless of their anti-racist methodology. I think that the challenge we face today has a great deal to do with the ways in which black Americans are corralled to regard each other and thus constrain their own individuality in what are largely performative gestures of racial solidarity.

Consider the recent controversy of the slap heard around the world. Who was the proper black man, Chris Rock or Will Smith? I wrote about it several months ago. https://mdcbowen.substack.com/p/chris-rock-and-the-four-violations

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