If a person doesn't need affirmation they are a sociopath. If a person does need it, but believe they dont, they are a delusional narcissist. Most humans need affirmation to thrive from the moment they are born. The minority who don't are soulless vampires. Unfortunately a disproportionate number manage to acquire power and spread evil lies about not needing love and fools believe it and spread it like ants that bring poison back to their colony believing it is food.
I can think of any number of people who never needed "affirmation" and were perfectly fine. I don't think John Roebling was looking for affirmation for a single minute as he was designing the Brooklyn Bridge. Neither was his son as he built the bridge while bedridden from Caissons disease. My grandmother drove a car until she was 92 and even then, still walked to her hair appointment every two weeks, and I know she never needed a pat on the head. Douglas Haig, leading the BEF on the Western Front in 1916? I bet affirmation was the last thing on his mind.
Such thoughts are the thoughts of late 20th Century Americans and as one, I know we are the weakest and most entitled people on the planet and these two things, our weakness and our need to be affirmed, are inextricably connected.
If you think none of these people needed affirmation and they weren’t sociopaths you are naive to how much affirmation people get without even realizing it. People generally “take for granted” the affirmation they get. The fact that your grandmother actually was *allowed to get a hair cut* and she wasn’t blocked from getting her hair cut because of her race, or her age, or her sex, or her religion, is a form of affirmation.
How often do you disgustingly pretend to eat the body of your god and drink it’s blood? How often do you kneel in front of a “holy man “ that represents in your mind the agent of an *omnipotent creator of the universe* and get a cracker stuck in your mouth? How often do you get that “pat on the head”?
You are fragile and you take for granted all the affirmation you receive. And then you express contempt toward people who express a need for affirmation. So disgraceful. And it’s ironic given how much ad nausea the New Testament goes on about how dependent and utterly powerless people supposedly are without Jesus and his divine affirmation.
Douglas Haig, without his men, without his comrades, without his friends, and without the affirmation he had received from them—without their loyalty and respect, he would not have been Douglas Haig.
Most of us, the ones who aren’t monsters, need affirmation like we need water. Unfortunately some people, to their shame, satiated with affirmation, forget they even need it, and ridicule the thirsty. Perhaps they should be exiled from civilization until they come crawling back, on their knees, begging for a “pat on their head” to humble their inflated and irrational pride.
K. I hope you stop worshipping an imaginary triune demon and may Prometheus richly bless you with more rationality and self-awareness.
Don’t forget to appreciate and acknowledge all the affirmation you get tomorrow when you celebrate along with other people you love the myth of the human sacrifice to the wrathful imaginary demon you worship resurrecting after 3 days.
If a person doesn't need affirmation from anyone and can still be happy, they are probably a monster. And they should receive affirmation from no one.
Needing affirmation from others is a sign of narcissism. It's nice to have a comforting word from a loved one, but no one needs such a thing.
If a person doesn't need affirmation they are a sociopath. If a person does need it, but believe they dont, they are a delusional narcissist. Most humans need affirmation to thrive from the moment they are born. The minority who don't are soulless vampires. Unfortunately a disproportionate number manage to acquire power and spread evil lies about not needing love and fools believe it and spread it like ants that bring poison back to their colony believing it is food.
I can think of any number of people who never needed "affirmation" and were perfectly fine. I don't think John Roebling was looking for affirmation for a single minute as he was designing the Brooklyn Bridge. Neither was his son as he built the bridge while bedridden from Caissons disease. My grandmother drove a car until she was 92 and even then, still walked to her hair appointment every two weeks, and I know she never needed a pat on the head. Douglas Haig, leading the BEF on the Western Front in 1916? I bet affirmation was the last thing on his mind.
Such thoughts are the thoughts of late 20th Century Americans and as one, I know we are the weakest and most entitled people on the planet and these two things, our weakness and our need to be affirmed, are inextricably connected.
If you think none of these people needed affirmation and they weren’t sociopaths you are naive to how much affirmation people get without even realizing it. People generally “take for granted” the affirmation they get. The fact that your grandmother actually was *allowed to get a hair cut* and she wasn’t blocked from getting her hair cut because of her race, or her age, or her sex, or her religion, is a form of affirmation.
How often do you disgustingly pretend to eat the body of your god and drink it’s blood? How often do you kneel in front of a “holy man “ that represents in your mind the agent of an *omnipotent creator of the universe* and get a cracker stuck in your mouth? How often do you get that “pat on the head”?
You are fragile and you take for granted all the affirmation you receive. And then you express contempt toward people who express a need for affirmation. So disgraceful. And it’s ironic given how much ad nausea the New Testament goes on about how dependent and utterly powerless people supposedly are without Jesus and his divine affirmation.
Douglas Haig, without his men, without his comrades, without his friends, and without the affirmation he had received from them—without their loyalty and respect, he would not have been Douglas Haig.
Most of us, the ones who aren’t monsters, need affirmation like we need water. Unfortunately some people, to their shame, satiated with affirmation, forget they even need it, and ridicule the thirsty. Perhaps they should be exiled from civilization until they come crawling back, on their knees, begging for a “pat on their head” to humble their inflated and irrational pride.
It's Easter Vigil and I'm done debating you. I hope you find peace in this world and may the Triune God richly bless you and the ones you love.
K. I hope you stop worshipping an imaginary triune demon and may Prometheus richly bless you with more rationality and self-awareness.
Don’t forget to appreciate and acknowledge all the affirmation you get tomorrow when you celebrate along with other people you love the myth of the human sacrifice to the wrathful imaginary demon you worship resurrecting after 3 days.