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Are you serious? Feelings don’t exist unless they can be verbalized?

I guess homosexuality wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t talked about or, anything else for that matter.

Of course it’s virtually impossible to parse language from human thought or behavior. When people can’t find words for their impulses or suffering it only magnifies the helplessness and anguish.

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People can express distress without trying to change the meaning of words. "Cis women" suggests that actual women are but one kind; that in fact men can also be women. But if that's the case, then "woman" doesn't mean anything. That some men experience distress being men shouldn't require us to speak of their experience in terms that deny reality and objective truth.

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Yes, cis women are “one kind” - the kind that don’t claim to identify as trans women It’s a useful designator, the antonym to being a trans woman.

I suggest you reread your linked article where thie need for this semantic differentiation was explained. It is neutral as to the validity of the claim of being trans, it simply identifies the two sides of the coin of contention.

Nobody has any definitive explanation what goes on in the head of sexually dysphoric individuals. It appears you have a well founded certainty on this subject. Present your evidence for peer review and enjoy your Nobel.

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So if a cis woman claims to be a trans woman, are you saying we shouldn't believe her ??? On what basis do we have to reject her claim? It's not like anyone has a definitive explanation for what goes on in her head.

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It does get a bit confusing, if context isn’t specified. I apologize if I wasn’t clear.

For a cis woman to claim to be a trans woman she would have to have been born a biological male, which of course is nonsensical.

Under most cases where something is claimed that is contrary to objective empirical fact we can claim the person is categorically wrong or as you are implying, mentally compromised. But with metaphysics or subjective feelings (perhaps influenced by biological urgings) there are no definitive ways to prove the truth of a claimed sexual identity. It’s not as if someone is claiming to be a penguin or another personage.

It wasn’t that long ago and some still insist that homosexuality is a mental condition effecting the subjective feelings of sexual attraction and not an inborn imperative.

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But there are definitive ways to prove the truth of other claimed identities? What proof do we have that someone isn't a penguin if they do in fact really truly feel like one? Why can't someone be trans-species?

And re: homosexuality/same-sex attraction, the question was never whether or not same-sex attraction was real; the question was whether acting on that attraction was moral or healthy or good as well as whether people experiencing same-sex attraction could be "fixed" and turned straight. Similarly, no one's doubting that there are people who perceive themselves to be the opposite sex or that they experience discomfort and distress in their bodies. The problem with transgenderism (a problem that's not present with homosexuality) is the assertion that the mere feeling of discomfort/distress in one's sexed body means that in fact the body is "wrong" and that their identity not only doesn't correspond to what exists in material reality, but that their "true" identity can be known only through their own imaginings, the perceptions of others be damned. Which is why if you accept that we can never be certain about sexual identities, then you have to allow that we can never be certain about age, height, weight, race or even species identities.

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