I agree with what you are saying and it's not that I haven't added my thoughts and opinions. But at some point, there is not much left I can say, especially for someone who is 21 and paving their own path. My daughter knows exactly what I think yet she is dug in to her own ideas and at some point I need to respect that.
Years ago, when our daughters were at university, I used to refer to it as the “Chapel Hill bubble”. We realized that our daughters were ensconced in academia, and though they were getting an education, we felt that it was important to present alternative points of view. If you have an open, respectful communication with them in these early adult years (which it very much sounds like you do), they will come back to you for counsel in the ensuing years. I’m happy to say that our grown, now successful 40something adult children ask for our thoughts and opinions all the time, especially on parenting! They don’t always agree, and we respect that, but the lines of communication remain open. So, Maura, keep talking, but especially, keep listening. Good luck.
Totally right. I agree. There will be years enough to sort all this out. She knows your position and you have to let her forge her own path, and own it.
I agree with what you are saying and it's not that I haven't added my thoughts and opinions. But at some point, there is not much left I can say, especially for someone who is 21 and paving their own path. My daughter knows exactly what I think yet she is dug in to her own ideas and at some point I need to respect that.
Years ago, when our daughters were at university, I used to refer to it as the “Chapel Hill bubble”. We realized that our daughters were ensconced in academia, and though they were getting an education, we felt that it was important to present alternative points of view. If you have an open, respectful communication with them in these early adult years (which it very much sounds like you do), they will come back to you for counsel in the ensuing years. I’m happy to say that our grown, now successful 40something adult children ask for our thoughts and opinions all the time, especially on parenting! They don’t always agree, and we respect that, but the lines of communication remain open. So, Maura, keep talking, but especially, keep listening. Good luck.
Totally right. I agree. There will be years enough to sort all this out. She knows your position and you have to let her forge her own path, and own it.